Many parents complain a lot about their children being ill-treated or overlooked by teachers at school. A parent will get such a report from their kids and immediately take things into their own hands without consulting the school. Which is the right procedure to deal with such a situation in an honorable manner that can be healthy and beneficial to both parties? Let’s look at a case bellow and the suggestions given to deal with such.
Recently we moved and our 15 year old son began attending a different school. With the change, his grades have gotten worse. Talking to the boy, I have found out when he asks the teachers questions, they answer him evasively. Also, comparing his exams with those of the others in his class, he says that the teachers are stricter with him than with the others. My wife and I are thinking about changing schools again. Is this the best thing to do?
Before changing schools, it is necessary to know what the real problem is in detail and from different sources. You only have your son’s version. You must recognize that other viewpoints exist, for example, those of the teachers.
Immediately talk to his teacher.
Do not adopt an attitude of re-crimination. Listen to the teacher first and show him your wish for the boy to progress. Do not emphasize the possible contradictions between what he says and what the boy tells you.
Be ready to cooperate in any way.
Do not go with the preconceived idea that the problem belongs to the education center and they should be the ones who resolve it. Ask the teacher, how do you think that I can help him? And what do you think the main obstacles are?
Be sincere about the family circumstances.
Your family may still be affected by the move and is probably adapting to the new home. Identify the real source of the problems.
Extract active guidelines from your interview with the teacher.
For example, a personal study plan or the review of previous lessons, or the need for better communication and relationships within the family.
Involve your child in these lines of action.
A second meeting, with your son present, may be very useful. Let everyone talk openly to establish further guidelines to follow.
Trust that the school will carry out its part in the solution of the problem.
And as far as you are concerned, carry out your own part. With a little patience, things will reach a situation which may be even better than before changing schools?