In this article am giving my pure thoughts and perception of the world around me. I am talking about men and women, how money and women have driven both men and women crazy. On the other hand, how women have impacted men both negatively and positively and how men have instigated both positive and negative perceptions and stereotypes upon women. Where there is money, there are women, where there are women, there is sex, and where there is sex, we have the so-called men. This creates a paradox of money, men and women. A form of modern prostitution that operates in a model called barter trade.
Have you ever imagined that there were no women? Could men work hard as they do today? No women mean no children, no family structure, and all men could exist for themselves. Would life be interesting? I bet not. This world without women would be very boring. On the other hand, imagine we were still using the old day’s system of barter trade. Where people did business by swapping products of different values upon agreement. Like I give you a sack of beans in an exchange for a she-goat. Anyway, life was amazing then, I prefer that life compared to this unfair monetary system.
My goal in this article is not to discuss the presence of women and the barter trade though. I am curious about how money and women have shaped and impacted our society and the man being the center of all this drama. I must accept that modernization has changed how things used to work, and how people used to behave. All the same, things have to change, but is all change good? We shall see! This paradox of money, men and women are wide and interesting.
Truth said, things have changed, am tempted to compare our forefather’s times with current times but that’s a huge gap. I am in my early thirties, but how things have changed since I was a teen, I can’t even imagine what awaits us ahead. Values and norms have been rendered useless. People of the land have ignored their lineage wisdom and delved into modern designed lifestyles in the name of embracing and changing with times. Many have been caught in the web of money, men’s and women’s vehemence.
Let me get down to my major discussion. I would say without fear of contradiction that money and women have been driving factors in society today. Whenever a money discussion is present, something about women would come up. Whenever women are being discussed, money would also be discussed. Sadly, men are the ones who planted this mindset within society and everybody believes and holds on to these values. These values to a big extent are not good for the modern boy child who can’t live to set ‘standards’.
Societal relations have become very complex today, and the harmony that existed before is no more. Money has become the only thing for the majority. The question will be asked who planted this mindset among the generations. I would say 80% of women have never experienced true love or enjoyed true love because the only criteria they used to get a man was money. How much money does he have? Many women have rushed into such relations and at the end of the day regret it big time. As much as money is very important, it should not be the only thing at the expense of a healthy relationship. I will get back to this but for now, let me take you to the current lifestyle.
Just look at social media today. The majority of our amazing women have become models. All they do is spend their time buying new clothes and taking pictures. Every decent woman out there is trading nudes for likes and followers. They forget that models do that for a living. The sad part, after critical analysis of what exactly is their intentions, they are doing so to solicit men, not only men but men with money. Men who can take them out, go for a weekend at a given five-star hotel, eat, be eaten, etc. This is what I call a paradox of money, men and women.
Modern Prostitution (A paradox of money, men and women)
Society has always disgraced women who participate in commercial sex. These women walk the streets half-naked and embracing all men who pass by for barter trade, you are given sex in exchange for money. I am not going to talk about these women here but rather, these ambitious women, university students, musicians, actors, career women, wives to a given man, church leaders, and rowdy women politicians.
Modern dating styles have evolved and as a social analyst, it has become very complex to understand human intentions and desires. I feel the human theory of mind has been disrupted to some extent. Dating has taken mismatched trends, people would meet on social media, dating sites, or worse through an exchange of materials or money for love and that’s it, they are in love. I have seen marriages that have been formed under such backgrounds and are still surviving to date. The question would remain, do these individuals experience true love, is their conscious happy and free, do they experience the intended joy of marriage, and are they okay?
The above questions can be approached from different angles, feel free to answer them as you would want. Let me start a worthwhile conversation at some point. Who is to blame, man, woman, or both for the modern out-of-shape dating trends? A man will get money and use it to seduce a woman for casual encounters. A woman, on the other hand, will only submit when a man is ready to cough some money, or am I the only one observing? Ha-ha. It’s some form of private-juicy barter trade going on and it’s like the society has accepted it fully.
In fact, this trend is built from when one is young. Girls will always be subjected to favors that are not necessary right from when they are young. The boy child will never receive any favors. They are expected to toil for everything, which is not wrong. Girl-child needs to toil especially now when they are demanding equality. Equality should apply to everything not only preferred areas. So the boy-child gets this mindset of favors when they are young and grow up. They get the understanding that they can have any woman they want as long as they have money to buy them. Girl-child on the other hand is programmed to accept any man as long as they got money.
This trend has strained our young generation severely. When you interview a young girl today and ask them what they want from their dream man, all you will hear is money, lots of money, cars, beach house. Are we all going to live in the beach house? Does money offer true love and peace of mind? That’s why such ladies get dumped because they are nothing but parasites, they are called Gold diggers I hear, they are lazy, and they can’t even dig gold, let us just call them parasites. If they can dig gold they would not sleep around in exchange for money and materials.
Also Read: Should women accept Gifts from Men?
Most girls would post sexy pictures on their social media profiles. This is good because the media is meant for that. The problem comes when these girls start demanding vacations, money, and other materials you know them. It’s like they are on this platform marketing themselves. You would ask one for a date and they would ask questions like, do you have a car? Which hotel are we going to? I don’t have blah blah, would you buy me that? If you complain, no date for you boy. Stay there, find the money first. They have turned their bodies into commodities or products which you have to buy to have them.
If you check their profiles on dating sites, you will be shocked. One of the profiles read, “Am here looking for any man, you can be old I don’t care, all you need to have is good money, car, and a yacht if possible because my beauty is high maintenance, if you can provide am all yours, jokers aside please, waiting for you to write me, babe”. It’s all business for them, it’s a new way of surviving. Is this lifestyle right? People are serving thighs on social media, it’s a nudity business, and people are loving it, sad!
To have a healthy relationship, you both have to bring something to the table. Some would say he is enjoying my body! Seriously? Are you not enjoying it too? I don’t want to discuss this today but if we analyze deeply both parties are enjoying it. If it’s gaining they both gain, losing, they both lose. For you to be of impact, to matter, and be respected you have to bring something to the table, don’t be a parasite, such relationships never last. Even if you have nothing at the beginning, start something or join his projects and do something and don’t accept to be the one receiving always.
I believe men are the initiators of all these misfortunes in as much as I would love to blame women. The current breed of men, can’t approach a woman head-on and talk things out. So they decided to orchestrate a way of getting them without a sweat. They came up with a seduction process, using money and material things. For sure this worked for them, look around, most women are ready to let go of their dignity and have access to these men who put them in flashy lifestyles. Relationships with no affection, just an exchange of benefits. Do you see who brought this problem? Man himself.
This problem has caused havoc among young and aspiring men. They can’t date because they have money but it is not enough. Their money can’t buy trendy clothes, can’t cater for beachside hotel vacations and private villas with heavenly beds if they ever exist, and they don’t even own a fancy car. Young men are lonely, all-girls they want have gone to big daddies so-called big boys. They walk around overwhelmed with dry-spell, they are starving to the brink of death. They end up watching porn and masturbating every time they are hungry for sex. Those with financial stability are enjoying life, they have money and thus access to women they want.
What happens to this broke young man? They suffer in pain as they contemplate solutions to their misadventure and this is what they decide. Sample thoughts of a young man, “Okay! I can’t get a woman because I have no money. I can get any woman if I have a lot of money and as much as I want. That’s a good deal for me, let me work hard and get the money, ladies I will be back soon let me get what you want.” This has led young men not to marry because they are busy looking for money. On the other hand, our young ladies are getting married to older men, because that’s the only option they have. Are you ladies in such marriages happy? Anyway, that’s a discussion for another day.
I think that’s why we have cases of rampant adultery all over. People are not happy, they are trying to find happiness outside marriage, they got married to individuals they are not emotionally compatible with. They do this thinking it is the norm that so and so also does this. Sadly, parents also support their daughters to get married to very old individuals, just for money. Others are married as second, third, fourth, or even fifth wives just to be with a financially stable man. Young, energetic, ambitious, and good-looking men are left in loneliness, waiting to get rich at old age and marry young ladies and the loop continues to iterate.
This culture has affected men hugely. Every man in all classes of life is stressed. One day I was walking the streets with my girlfriend and suddenly a Mercedes stopped beside us. A clean guy looked at my girlfriend lustfully and said, “Hey let us go and have some fun.”. Just imagine the audacity this guy had because he had money. My girlfriend in a way seemed interested but could not leave me. I understood her situation, we all want more and more. This left me thinking hard and painfully, I was like “God give me riches so I can give her and myself a better life”.
Wives and girlfriends have been snatched from men with pennies. These men are left in deep depression and never will they be the same. Such men when they achieve success, become ruthless to men and women. They will have many women in the name of enjoying life yet it’s because of the previous experience of rejection. As they enjoy life, they destroy it in the process. Have you ever met arrogant men, who think the world revolves around them? Such men are victims of this lifestyle. When they were young they had no money and were denied the privilege of being with women. They became bitter and hateful and upon achieving the success they treat everyone with hatefulness even their own lovers.
This paradox of money, men and women exist at all levels of life. It transpires among the low, middle, and high classes of life. For example in a village where there is a challenge of transportation, a man who can provide a solution to this has a higher hand to get a sexual exchange. I have seen personally both unmarried and married women doing this, they will pick a young man who can provide transport and exchange that favor for sexual pleasures. Middle class, the levels of demands change, either you can pay rent, buy clothes, provide some basic needs, take them out then you qualify to have them and do as you wish. The high class has higher demands, like buying a car as a gift, sponsoring vacation trips to five-star hotels on another continent, building a house for them, and bingo they are all yours.
I term all this modern prostitution, this is a plain way to call this paradox. You may not be outside at night selling yourself but the moment you submit to sexual adventures just because someone did something to you, that qualifies as prostitution. Men have brought unto themselves a huge burden, most men have to spend a lot of money to enjoy sexual pleasures. I am sorry for you guys. I will say, being horny is natural, and solving horniness should also be natural and not incur a dime. Don’t be an idiot, be a man and use your masculinity to get one. There is a need for changing the mindset of our generation.
Let’s go back to our traditional ways of dating, where a man would walk confidently toward a woman and address their dispositions. When a girl is interested, they accept and that’s a sweet deal, no demands, no expenses. What brings them together is affection, love, the burning desire for each other, and not money or material things. It’s very weird to be with someone who does not have any affection towards you and yet you are full of affection towards them, that’s creepy. What if they cut your throat at night?
Dating has faced evolutionary mismatch which is a societal problem, lucky enough we all have a theory of mind, we are grown-ups. Before you engage in relationships, discern the other party and know their intentions of wanting to be with you. If your intentions do not match and cannot be matched either, walk and never look back. Go find somewhere else, the elders said, “beautiful ones are not yet born” meaning don’t stick to someone whom you are not compatible with yet you can always find one elsewhere who is compatible.